The voting patterns in America defy logic and humanity. When we look for the reasons of why citizens of the United States are so crazy, hostile towards themselves and others, we need look no further than how each of us were raised. The First seven years of Early Childhood Development …. is HUGE.
“1 out of 5 girls are molested before the age of 18 and 1 out of 5 boys. “
Narcissism is so normal in America that there was talk about removing it from the DSM-5 (… the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). If a pattern of behavior considered “normal,” then it’s longer aberrant if it’s within a culture.
Names for mental health disorders carry cultural baggage because the big problem with these labels is that often the people assigning them are either biased or disordered themselves. (i.e. people commonly gravitate to the study psychology in order to figure out why THEY’RE so crazy… far before they see a client and add grandiosity to their issues.)
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a a cluster B personality disorder. Cluster B Personality Disorders are characterized by dramatic, overly emotional or unpredictable thinking or behavior. They include:
- Antisocial Personality Disorder
- Borderline Personality Disorder
- Histrionic Personality Disorder and
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder. ~Mayo Clinic
Typically more men have been diagnosed as Narcissistic and more women have been diagnosed as Borderline or even Histrionic Personality Disorder. But today, it’s clear that there’s just about as many female narcissists as there are male. The patterns of molesting, raping, abandoning, and emotionally and physically abusing children has created an increased number of adults who were raised in single family homes and in extremely dysfunctional homes.
Add to that the hordes of immigrants escaping one type of abuse or another and raising their children without the help of psychotherapy and you have a multi-sided mess where people are acting out on each other with no clear understanding why the larger culture continues to decline.
People traumatized by disordered parents or “caregivers,” have weak, fragile identity structures. Many become classic, “Haters” because if you simply show up, and they FEEL that you’re of a higher rank or “better than” they are, they will internalize this as, YOU MADE THEM FEEL inferior and therefore they “Have” to get you… pull you down, and destroy you. Often their drama is aimed at your reputation. This classically will lead to you feeling depressed and self-isolating.
There, as a lost sheep, it’s very difficult to bring your gifts to the table of life and without doing that, they have stolen your community and your place in a tribe of friends who value you. It is here that you are vulnerable to suicide. If you’re foolish enough to kill yourself, they’ll simply breath a sigh of relief that you’re gone and say that you deserved it.
Without healthy fathers to “bless” you, more men are being diagnosed as Borderline as a result of their inability to control their emotions, their hysterical behavior, and their love of drama. Infantile narcissism is often at the core, but their behavior co-mingles with Borderline traits.
Likewise the women who are misdiagnosed as Borderline are usually closer to Anti-Social (i.e. on the sociopath scale) who identify themselves with criminals, dark witches, and “Feme Fatal” … Dominatrix who takes pleasure in casing pain in others–usually in men.
Worse still is the fact that most people who act out of these complexes have no idea that they’re doing so. They’re unconscious of their self-hatred. They’re unconscious that they’re projecting THEIR wounded and under- developed Identity structure onto others–especially anyone they feel safe about victimizing and pulling down because the other unknowingly … supposedly, “thinks their better than” the narcissist or Borderline.
How pervasive are these dysfunctional personality disorders?
— Thug Kulture is Borderline Culture (Rappers need to take responsibility for the products they produce.)
— “Femi-Nazi” culture is Narcissistic / Borderline culture. (So is any other claim to superiority solely based on gender male, female, or third gender).
— Homophobia, sexism, racism, and Antisemitism are pure dysfunctional coping patterns of mental illness caused by toxic shame and poor personal identity, early sexual trauma and early abuse.
— White Supremacy, Black Hebrew Israelites, political extremism, and any other bogus claim to superiority all have their roots in infantile Borderline Narcissism and Anti-social pathological mental illness.
So in this age of increasing techno isolation, HOW can we expect to have functional, healing, honest, empowering relationships when so many of us are crippled by untreated trauma and acting it out on each other rather than taking responsibility for our own individual healing?
It starts with awareness.
More Borderlines are killed due to their drama loving behavior than any other personality disorder and more Borderlines kill themselves than any other–BUT ironically, BPD has the best good prognosis than any other personality disorder and is easiest to treat. Dialectic Behavioral Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy groups have shown far, FAR better results than any psychotherapy can come close to.
Psychedelic Therapy has shown greater recovery results than anything traditional American Medical and American Psychiatric Association or Big Pharmaceutical corporations come close to achieving. But… it’s not what you do, but how you do it. Research has now given us protocols.
Buddhism (“Mindfulness”), Confucianism, Taoism, and Hinduism, offer excellent insights into the personal workings of the mind. All religions and philosophies carry cultural dogma … so the student needs to, “take what they need, and avoid the rest.”
The rubber has come off the wheels of American society. The United States started off dysfunctionally. The goal is not to be “perfect” nor “sinless” … for both of those illusions are not human. The goal is to go beyond your Ego… to go beyond culture… so that you can fully find your true Identity… and Actualize yourself. (Many times you find out who you are by becoming who you most were resistant to…and then going beyond that.)
Good Resources:
“Similarities and Differences between Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorder” ~ Dr. Daniel Fox
“Narcissism vs Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD vs NPD)” Dr. Ramani
“King Warrior Magician Lover” ~By Moore & Gillette
“The Cosmic Game” by Stanislav Grof
Daniel McQueen’s Psychedelic Marijuana Therapy, Naropa Institute
Carl Jung – What are the Archetypes?
“LSD And The Mind of The Universe” by Christopher Bache, Ph.D.
Ra Un Nefer Amen Ancient Egyptian Healing Liberation of The Mind
Black Traveler 